After moving to the suburbs I was in a different world. I lived in the middle of a retirement neighborhood that was on its way to turning over the residents to a younger generation in a few years. The old people were dying off and I was one of the new and early inheritors of this quiet new world. The closest people my age were over 7 blocks away, which also was a hell of a run to the bus stop in the morning since that was where the pick up was too. I met a lot of kids from school that lived in the area. We played a lot of sports all day long every day of summer and after school. Football, baseball, street hockey, climbing of buildings in the neighborhood (abandoned school I may have to explain later), biking, running, basketball, skating… we even had made up games when we couldn’t get enough players for the regular games: curb ball – take a basket ball or soccer ball throw it at the opposite curb for points. Penalty for missing. Boomerang biking – throw the boomerang and someone plays wide receiver to ride out and try to catch it. It wasn’t a great idea and it was very short lived. Not short enough, though. For those who know the history of a boomerang, yeah, for some reason mine also had a near-bladed edge on the back. Catching it was hard enough without cutting yourself without adding a bike into the game.
One of the kids in my school whom I had no idea lived close was Marc. He rode our bus but had genes that were unfortunate for a kid at our age, he looked and sounded like he was 30. He looked like a parent who forgot to bring their kid to the bus stop, or like he was going to shove one of us into his car. If anyone remembers cult leader David Koresh from back in the 90’s, this was what Marc looked like and he knew it. He had a dark sense of humor and thought that was cool. We became friends in acting class freshman year. He and I shared a sick sense of humor and would often find the most outlandish two person scenes and plays to perform or try to figure out which monologues no one else would touch. Everyone in class, fucking EVERYONE, either did “Rocky Horror”, or something Disney. Marc and I and one other girl who was actually for real bat-shit crazy and in love with Marc would pick either vulgar or outlandish esoteric material. Edward Albee was a good one. I did Sweeney Todd before anyone knew that was a thing that Johnny Depp would ruin later. We did improv where we would have to play psych games with each other live on stage to fool the other person into going along with the joke one of us was trying to set up and also keep the class and teach guessing on as well. It was fun stuff.
At home I found out Marc was one of the kids that lived at that 7-8 block mark for distance from my house when I saw him walking by. So I went over his house and saw the greatest collection of musical instruments, mostly guitars, I’d ever seen. Not since childhood in my uncle’s music studio had I seen so many in one place. My uncle, whom I was told I am not allowed to name online, played bass on tour for some well known R&B / soul singers in the 80’s. I was never told this as a child. Even as a teen I never knew. A chance meeting with a customer at a music store later in my story will enlighten me to a family secret that only I and my uncle would know.
At Marc’s, I was in an enlightened space that I didn’t even know I was missing. I hadn’t even learned where there were guitars sold in my city until that point. I played violin in 4th grade and that place sold pianos and brass instruments also. But the guitar was like forbidden fruit. My stepmom would never allow the noise if I got one, and I probably couldn’t afford a decent one if I had a job. But Marc introduced me to the only radio station worth listening to on the terrible radio this city had to offer.
Then known as CD101.1 FM, it was the alternative station. In the 80’s I mostly listened to oldies music, pre-1970 and classical music on the college public station. To this day, I am the only kid in 4th grade that called in to that station requesting Rachmaninov and Beethoven. I had classical mix tapes. I had oldies mix tapes. I bought cassette tapes for $4.99 at the dollar store of movie OST’s, like the Explorer’s with River Phoenix. To this day, I know that soundtrack by heart. I knew Danny Elfman’s compositions for films and TV before I even knew he was in Oingo Boingo. I called the oldies station in 3rd grade requesting songs and shoutouts to my Aunt Eleanor. I was not the typical child with my musical tastes. I never learned what 80’s music was until after 1996. I didn’t start listening to music that classmates were into until 5th grade when Guns n Roses released their music video for “Paradise City” and the girls in my class were all about Axle Rose and Slash.
I got big into MTV after that, but I still didn’t know what alternative music was and wouldn’t for another few years when I met Marc and he introduced me to CD101 and the likes of Nirvana, Green Day, Stone Temple Pilots and so many more. 90’s music was my gateway drug into music I’d never heard before. He also introduced me to classic rock. I’d never heard Hendrix, Pink Floyd, or The Who before. The oldies station I listened to was strictly 50’s-60’s music or mellower 70’s sounds like Cat Steven’s late at night. I went to bed listening to that as a younger child.
Now, I wanted a guitar. I collected cassettes from the flea market of Use Your Illusions I & II which also became a business model for a few classmates whose parents refused to let them listen to GNR. I must’ve bought and sold every copy that booth at the flea market had for a few months. It was a good deal until I felt like I was taking a kids money. He bought 4 copies off me over a few months. He said his parents kept finding the cassettes and destroying them. So I made him a deal. I’d sell them to him at cost. Music needs to be shared. That might have been my earliest memory of music as an important currency. To this day, I still believe that to be true.
Marc and I became good friends over a shared love of music and movies. He too was into OST’s for movies and knew even more than I did on the composers of every action film made since Die Hard. He even wrote to them and had a few responses back. Marc could read music. Even though I played violin previously and tried learning piano from my grandpa and at a babysitters house, I could never read music notation. Marc taught me about guitar tablature. That was far easier to read. But harder to find for some pieces. I learned a few tricks in a few years to follow that I now found out aren’t really taught anymore. I learned to play by ear and for a while was really good at it. If I heard it, unless it was really technically complex, I could play it. I learned relative tuning which isn’t a widely known or practiced thing anymore. I just needed to get instruments of my own.
Next time: How I pissed off a music teacher and was told never to touch an instrument again.
Sorry these are so spaced apart. I have been really really busy up until a cancer diagnosis. Now I am finding time to write again. While a few people have heard a very abridged version of this story told, unless they were there they don’t know all of it. I think it is a fun story having lived it. Especially the time I tried to interview Henry Rollins for a newspaper I hadn’t yet gotten a job at. But it isn’t what you think;) (sorry, those clickbait YouTube videos use that line and I thought I’d try it out. But it is a fun story I’ve told and never written.)